The rules of who pays on a date aren’t cut and dried. Plus, there are multiple options. Here are some tips on managing expectations, so it doesn’t lead to an awkward standoff:
Bring it up beforehand
It’s best to have a quick chat before the server drops off the bill. Is it your first date? No need to make it complicated.
Depending on the route you’d like to take, simply say something like, “I asked you out, so let me pay for this one.” Or, “I usually like to go splitsies on a date, that way, no one person feels like they have to pay for everything.” Or, “How about I get this, and you get the ice cream afterward?”
You get the picture. Then assess their response.
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Kick things off with an inexpensive date
During the early stages of courtship, consider a low-key date with a minimal investment of time and money. For instance, a quick coffee meetup or a stroll in the park. (We’ll delve into more free or low-cost ideas in just a bit.)
Let it go
Life’s not perfect. We’re only human. And while it is an anxiety-inducing matter to figure out who pays on a date, should things not go according to your plan, don’t stress. For example, let’s say your date paid, which you regrettably agreed to. (You would have preferred to split the bill.) Instead of beating yourself up over it, bring it up on the second date.
